Tag Archives: wellbeing

Festive greetings and update

Hello! And thank you, if you’re still following this blog, because I’ve let it languish in recent months. Since I last posted I have experienced a fair few major life events: having a baby, moving house, moving jobs, and also… writing a new book!

The book is aiming to share ideas from the therapy room which I think can help any of us day to day. It’s called A Year To Change Your Mind and it uses the framework of the twelve months to introduce different psychology concepts. Some of the ideas in it were first experimented with on this blog. I’ve mixed in some amalgamated examples from the therapy room and some of my own life experiences. You can read it or listen to me read it to you, as there’s an audio version as well, all available here and in your local bookshops. It feels really good to have it out in the world, although it’s always a bit scary the night before it comes out! If you do read it I’d love to know what you think. Amazon reviews etc make a really big difference, but feel free just to let me know too. 

I’ve been thinking of this month and its particular challenges… I don’t know how you feel about Christmas but for me it always feels a bit mixed. I wrote something about how ideas from psychology can be helpful at Christmas – it’s free to read here if you’re feeling the toll of the festive season. 

One more thing of mine to share – there’s a lot in the news about NHS staff at the moment, who with chronic underfunding have seen their pay and their work environments depleted to bare bones. This free to access research article is about some focus groups I ran with NHS staff working on mental health wards for teenagers, and the main finding was that the things they thought were important for compassionate care for patients were the same things they needed for themselves to be able to provide that care. There were 6 elements: emotional connection, a sense of being valued, attention to the whole person, understanding, good communication, and practical help/resources. Resources and a sense of being valued are very related to the current reasons for strikes. I’ve got my fingers crossed that the government will start engaging with the unions soon.  

I’d also like to recommend a book I’ve been reading (in amongst various illnesses which have been striking our household down)  – Claudia Hammond’s The Keys of Kindness. It’s a masterclass in writing and full of interesting studies and personal examples of kindness. I’d recommend. 

I am wishing you all a calm and enjoyable festive season. I’m looking forward to a Christmas lasagne on the day itself. I’ve a few events related to the new book coming up in the New Year if you happen to be in Bristol, Cheltenham or London, dates are below. I’ve also started writing a very occasional newsletter which you can sign up for on my website.

2023 Events

Jan

11.1 Bristol Book Launch at Bookhaus 

Feb

8.2 Cheltenham Alternative Book Club 

26.2 London The Sunday Papers Live

Making time for play

It’s hard to know exactly how we’re going to come out of lockdown, despite the rumours and the guesses. It’s certainly a complex challenge to negotiate, but in the midst of this dilemma a group of several experts from education, child development, psychology, and child psychiatry are trying to make sure that children’s wellbeing is put front and centre.

The group’s initiative is called Play First, and they want to make sure that children’s need to play is prioritised as much as their need to catch up academically, as they return to school. They’ve written a letter to MP Gavin Williamson with some practical advice on how to achieve this safely (like children taking turns to play in small groups) along with a clear summary of the evidence that their views are based on.

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A reason to enjoy the rain


I have been loving the sound of the rain on the veranda recently, and the smell of the plants that gets so much stronger and fresher after they’ve been doused. Being under shelter as the rain falls on the roof reminds me a bit of camping at festivals, and a bit of being really young and in my dad’s workshop out the back, with its corrugated roofing and smell of cut wood and glue.

The sound of the rain also made me think about the news items there have been about forest-bathing recently, the Japanese practice of immersing oneself in nature, and research which has shown it’s good for us to have time in the wild.

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Wellbeing for all

Screen Shot 2018-06-01 at 18.28.22A new NHS framework promoting health and wellbeing in healthcare staff was launched mid-May.

The investment of time and resource to write this report is to be celebrated. The framework emphasises the importance of NHS staff wellbeing and gives some concrete ideas for improving working conditions and individual skills to cope with difficult work. These have the potential to be helpful.

However, the report ignores one of the key reasons why this document is needed in the first place: funding constraints. Continue reading

Guilty pleasures and are pets good for us?

dog grooming

Photo by Ricky Brigante

I’ve been indulging in a guilty pleasure recently: binge-watching The Apprentice. I don’t have a telly and tend not to watch loads, but when I do I really get into it. The Handmaid’s Tale, Bake Off, and now Alan Sugar and his job applicants…

There is something I enjoy about watching the naked ambition and downright competitive nastiness of the candidates. Every series someone says “I’m not here to make friends”, which is blatantly obvious in the scenes in the boardroom where they are all fighting for their place in the competition and passing the blame. Continue reading

Compassion-focussed therapy

heart in handsI’ve been reminding myself of some of the basics of compassion-focussed therapy recently, and I thought I’d blog about it because we could probably all use a bit of this. Compassion-focussed therapy is a third-wave CBT approach, which means it has grown out of cognitive behavioural therapy even though it looks quite different to traditional CBT. A key part of it involves learning to show more compassion to ourselves as well as others. Continue reading

Is living in the city bad for our state of mind?

app picture mechelliMental health problems are more common amongst city dwellers – but why? Is it the stress? The noise? The lack of green spaces? A study involving scientists from King’s College London, architects from J & L Gibbons, artists from Nomad Projects and design experts from the Van Alen Institute, is trying to find out how the urban landscape affects how we feel. Continue reading

Top ten psychology apps

IMG_5986It can be a conversation killer to tell people you’re a psychologist. “Do you go round analysing people?” is a common response. “Are you reading my mind?” is another. Psychology is very people focused. It’s all about us: why we do things, who we are, what we think and feel and how our minds, brains and bodies interact. While this can be disconcerting if you think someone is reading your mind (we’re really not, we’re too busy worrying about our own), there is something intriguing about reflecting on our own and others’ motivations. Continue reading